I recently found my self in a confusing state, fraustrated and tired, i desperately needed someone to talk to, given my past experience with girls: i do not even believe in keeping a relationship, talk more of having a partner to talk to.
I was just in the office on Tuesday (8th/12/2020), trying to navigate around my falling apart world when my phone rang, there she was, a God sent friend, my confidante, my gossip partner and one of a kind friend. She enquires about our last discussion and asked why i haven’t reached out to her yet, yes! That’s how close we are, no secrets, no lies but pure truth and a shoulder to lean on.
I explained what has happened to her since our last discussion and how things has taken a little turn of fate, she was worried for me but knowing she needed to be strong for me, she stomached her worry and say some words of encouragement to me, told me not to worry and that everything will be fine. Like an angel, her words relief me of my tension and gave me hope, i couldn’t be more proud of our friendship. I just say to myself, she’s a blessing in my life.
Oluwatobi Ogunjimi is my friend’s name, this is someone whom i met during NYSC (three years ago) and has been a revelation in my life, she has made it seem as if we’ve known each other for our entire lifetime.
To further add sugar on the icing cake, she sent an epistle of compliments to me the following morning. Albeit i feel most of the compliment is an exaggeration of my personality, i am so appreciative of our friendship and I am a more stronger version of myself with her around me. She has this👇 to say about me:
“Saying that ‘I am proud of you is an understatement’
I want you to know how proud I am of you! You have continued to take care of yourself and your obligations even as you are struggling.; You have not given up or just laid down hoping someone else will rescue you.
I am very sure that every sacrifice will give its reward and encouragement makes you get everything you aim. How you have turned out to be one of the very few I can trust with my life is amazing
I know that things have been hard lately and you are in the midst of troubling times. Your head and heart must be everywhere right now, making life confusing and hectic. The problems and issues you’re dealing with are real and scary, and I know that you are trying to figure out things for yourself. As one of your friends, I just want you to know a few things.
You are a wonder. I have seen you accomplish, fail, love, lose, sing, cry and laugh at your worst and at your best. You work hard for everything in your life and continue to strive for more. You’re also the one that I can slack off with, goofing around as if nothing else in the world matters at the time but the sound of our laughter. You continue to amaze me and one day you’re going to surprise yourself, even if it’s not right now. I couldn’t be more proud of the person you are and how you carry yourself. Your dedication and strength are inspiring, and you are going to have everything you want in life. Keep reaching and never change.
You are so beautiful inside and out; You have such gifts to offer this world; You are talented; You are skillful.
Don’t ever forget that I believe in you. You are an amazing human being. You are a good friend. People love you. I love you. You are not alone. Everyone has their own struggles, their own battles to fight, and their own doubts about themselves. So don’t you dare beat yourself up for that. And don’t listen to the lies. Don’t forget who you REALLY are. Because YOU are wonderful and the world is a better place with YOU IN IT.
My take home from the above compliment is that in whatever you are doing, always try to be a better version of yourself, i am grateful for people like her in my life who has always believed in me and my abilities to go places, she in particular has always been a source of inspiration for me. She is always availble to listen to my cry and offer me her shoulder to lean on, she has always try to re-ignite the dieing fire in me and I will always bless the day our path crossed.
Get your self a true friend like Oluwatobi Ogunjimi, because your life at times depend on the type of friends you’re keeping.